Originally Posted by
stace123 
Thank you every for your kind messages/support, I think what breaks my heart the most is his Nan brought him up, she's 81 and she's just lost her dog of 14 years and he keeps putting her through it and I think in someway she relies on me to "save" him on a weekend so he will stop and as much as I love his nan to bits I don't think that's enough for me to stay because like you say, I'm not his career and he's responsible for his own actions, I just never thought it would get to this stage (naïve) and I thought we would be a family and get married etc...... I'm 31 and he's 34
Stace - My STBXAH's mother has a chronic disease and boy did she love me when we started dating, she felt better that I was there to "take care of him." At first, I had pride in this role until I realized the life sentence of abuse I signed myself up to after we were married.
It is not only at this stage but it isn't even done yet.....it will get WORSE!
I was in my late 20s when I met my STBXAH and everyone was pairing off and getting married. I mean, I did fall in love with him but I saw the warning signs/red flags.
Please save yourself.....this is NOT about you. You do not owe his grandmother anything nor do you own him anything. Let your last holiday be the last thing he ruins in your life.
Sending you good thoughts and wishing you the best!