I'm with Nola on this. From someone who's been entwined with an active A for many years now, I would free yourself from the drama, chaos, heartache, and everything else that comes along with being with/loving an A. You aren't living together, you have no assets together, and thankfully no children together.
Read others's posts and the Stickies, and determine if that's the kind of path you wish to go on. Methinks not.
We're here for you. If love, energy and effort (from us) could cure the addiction, this board would not exist, because we all end up putting much more of all of those things in trying to 'fix' the problem that the A's themselves don't believe they have.
I'll use this line again today: Alcoholics don't have relationships - they take hostages. Just sayin'.
Best of luck to you. Glad your here, keep reading and posting.
C-O-D