LPS,
You dont know how validated i feel reading your post! My xah is beloved by everyone! His place of work even had a special day in his honor. This is a man who threw a big big roach (the kind that hover and fly) on me and our daughter among other frightening things. Oh my goodness, people would tell me how wonderful he was- Even people who didnt know him! No one and i mean no one knows how he really is. Sure they know he drinks too much but they havent a clue about the things hes done or said. Even my daughter and her husband, who strongly encouraged me to leave, dont think of him as an a hole anymore.