I am 58 years old, and was raised to be a VERY good, obedient codependent.
I have been separated from my former partner 3-1/2 years, and we are in the middle of a divorce. I have also gone no contact with my family of origin.
I am not sure one ever gets over being codependent, but I believe you can achieve a comfortable sobriety. The biggest thing I have had to learn, is to observe red flags. I am very careful what I get mixed up in with others.
I am blessed now to have some VERY healthy friends who don't present me with drama.