reads like a great example of the why of steps 2 and 3.
good reading starting about pg 60 in the BB.
The first requirement is that we be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success. On that basis we are almost always in collision with something or somebody, even though our motives are good.
not the easiest thing for me to accept, but people are allowed to do as they please in their home.