I feel the same way. I feel like I had a strong identity before I started drinking and I got really lost along the way as the substance took over. I don't know who I am anymore at 100 days sober. My identity was too tied to the alcohol and being the life of the party. I think it is common in the first year of recovery to be lost. Are you in a support group or do you have a support system? Maybe try a women's AA meeting.