Originally Posted by
BAW81 
Clover - I am sorry you are in this situation.
All I can share is my experience. I engaged my STBXAH's family about his problem (which they all knew and have issues themselves) because a part of me thought they could help and they didn't and they couldn't and he is back living closer to them and they all probably drink together in their dysfunctional alcoholic family.
I guess the question is why do you want to tell them? Are you looking for their help to help him? Are you looking for them to give you support?
Perhaps once you get to the root of what outcome you're seeking, it will help you decide what to do next.
Probably a bit of everything, and perhaps feeling a bit desperate - all the things "we" all ask ourselves - the what if I had done this or that, etc. I don't really talk to them unless I have to do so. They know there is a problem in the marriage but are unaware of what that problem is. His mother has asked my family members. I will be in town this weekend, and I will have to see them which is why this came up now.
I really believe there is at minimum depression if not mental illness going on. His father is mentally ill. I thought perhaps there was "hope" a few months ago, but that has faded.
I apologize. My head is really all over the place right now.