Originally Posted by
Berrybean 
What difference would them knowing make?
If he doesn't want to stop he will not. Things will keep getting worse. Has he actually asked you to keep his drinking secret, or has it just turned into something that you felt transferred shame over?
Unless they have some experience of alcoholism I suspect that you would get more support from AlAnon or similar.
When you say things have come to a head do you mean you are leaving him?
BB
They do have experience with addiction, and no he hasn't asked me to keep it secret. I was reading some older threads, and people had varying opinions. Sometimes I wonder if I have done him a disservice by keeping it quiet. I didn't really come to grips (or acknowledge it) with the gravity of the problem until 2 1/2 years ago.
I think I have decided that I can't live this way. It changes who I am, and I can't be the way I want to be in this situation. I was able to live outside of it for awhile, and that was quite the eye opener for me. As far as leaving, I have no friends or family support nearby. I am trying to prepare myself for a future exit