Originally Posted by
dandylion 
Stacy, the reason that I posted so much on your thread is that, from your previous posts/threads, I sensed that you were very focused on saving the marriage. It also sounded like he was not working in a serious program.....
I was trying to be supportive and helpful.....
But, if he isn't serious and you want out....I can't blame you one little bit.
I still remember the actual minute I decided that I need to get a divorce....and, I had three little kids....
I am such a proponent of marriage but I also do not believe this is how God designed marriage either! I want to save it but I have to ask myself how long do I want to do this for I do not think I can settle if things do not change. I do think if he chooses to continue, I would be happier without him. Thank you so much for your replies with so much thought & detail to help. Like someone else mentioned I am in limbo & it stinks! I pray daily for God to make it clear to me what direction is best for us all!