Hi, Stacy.
Welcome. Glad you are here.
You sound just about done in.
Agree with other posters that alcohol addiction is progressive and destructive over time, of health, of the family, of the job.
Everyone is functional until they aren’t.
I would ask: what do you want your life to be like in 5 years, 10?
Married to someone you can’t trust, that you don’t respect, and who places his family behind his priority: drinking.
It doesn’t get better. It gets worse.