Hopefully we can talk when I get home from work for if he only had one O.K
Nope, NOT OK.
There is no moderating for an alcoholic. Recovery requires total abstinence. Your AH is NOT in any kind of recovery, Stacy, as much as it sucks to realize that.
This is where I was for years. XAH went to AA meetings, in fact chaired his Sunday meeting, and never stopped drinking. I believed all kinds of excuses plus made up my own for a looong time. Finally I stopped.
He is not "making an effort", unless we are talking about "making an effort to hide his drinking." Please don't kid yourself like I did.