Thank you very much for writing that. I too have seen that same situation with my now X-husband. He had other previous sponsors while in the program but never anyone like this one he ran into and formed a very abnormal relationship with. I absolutely think his sponsor wanted control over my X for a self centered reason. I was shocked at how loyal and defensive he was about his sponsor. He would get extremely angry if I questioned any thing in regards to him. Nothing I said mattered and he also did not even want to talk. It was bizarre to me and made no sense. As you said.....It's like she was abducted by aliens ....I feel exactly the same way. It has been years since my divorce and communication is 0. I wonder how often this happens?? My heart goes out to you. I was extremely supportive just like you but it made no difference at all. I was told to not try to make sense out of something that makes no sense.
Hopefully we will hear from others too.