Hi, mickyc.
Welcome.
Lots of support here. Hope you will benefit.
I would worry less about labels and concentrate on the fact that you feel alcohol is becoming a problem for you and your family.
There is lots of good information here on the "stickies" posted at the top of the main menu.
Lots of good info on the web, too. Search "alcohol use disorder, " which is the clinical term now.
For many of us, including me, recognizing that we had a problem with drink was the first step to embracing sobriety and recovery.
If you don't like the person you become when you drink too much, then perhaps it's time to make some changes.
Good luck.