Hi,
I didn't see your post first time round but have read your thread through this morning. What comes across are 2 things:
Firstly, how strong and determined you are and your post is an inspiration to me in the early weeks of sobriety.
Secondly, how abusive your husband is. No one should have to put up with being called a b.... or a c... That is truly awful and there is NO excuse for it. It doesn't matter what you did or didn't do when drunk or are doing now sober. It's so unhealthy both for you and for your children to see.
I'm glad to see your husband is leaving. Even if he is financially dependent on you that is no reason for him to stay. At least he has his parents to go to. Financial matters will be discussed by the court if you divorce.
Congratulations on your sobriety and strength.