Dee - thanks for replying. Therapy is an option, I've done it before and know someone I like but he's rather far from me now....I was thinking of asking him if he does it by Skype.
Chilledice -thanks so much for your reassurance. I'm so sorry about that accident but very encouraged to hear your dad got past it! Thanks for the suggestion of CBT, it seems promising. I'll see if anyone nearby does that. Did your dad get that?