Hi Becki,
Two things I've heard this summer that have really helped me are:
"Don't leave. You're perfect for me." means I put up with the alcoholic's crap.
And...
The emotional abuser will douse the house in gasoline (his lies, words, promises) and then tell me I'm the one holding the match... don't light the match (don't tell)... don't burn down the house (don't leave, don't ruin the great lies I have going)
From the other side of leaving and getting serious help for my own mental state after the trauma of living with an alcoholic and psychological abuse, once I ignored all my false feelings of guilt it felt really good to burn down the house of fake illusions!!
(((Hugs)))