Originally Posted by
theuncertainty 
Becki, can I point out that it doesn't sound like he said a single thing about stopping. Just that he was sorry. And that he's sorry for being a drunk; not that he's sorry for his actions, not about how its affected you all. He didn't say anything about changing - or even trying to change.
All he did was pour on a guilt trip to the entire group sitting around the table. If he really accepted any part of his role in this, that is not what would have happened. What he did was essentially say "You're leaving. It's you. It's all your fault." Had it been anything other than a major attempt to guilt you into staying, it should have been more along the lines of "I understand that you will be leaving because of my [behavior drinking] and [impact to your lives]. I will figure this out."
I'm sorry...he did say that he was going to try to tackle the problem with a two pronged approach...counseling and medication. Today, he did call and make an appointment with him family doctor. I told him even though he did that, I am nervous that I'll give up this house and things will stay the same. He again said that he understood that I need to do what I need to do and he did it for himself. He told me to do the same thing. So, I'm going to. I don't know why it's so important for him to be okay with it....but it made me feel better. One of these days, it won't matter who's okay with what except me! One step at a time. Oh....I made plans with my sisters to attend a CODA meeting on Sunday night. I'm looking forward to it.