Originally Posted by Becki67

Pros
1. Peace in my home
2. Making my own rules
3. Owning any pet I want. Getting my parrots back and all the dogs I want.
4. Sleeping all night long with no worries
5. Possibly finding someone who wants to be a true partner and sharing the responsibilities of everyday life.
6. Having a holiday where there's no stress or tension or no one passed out on the kitchen floor before people go home.
7. Getting my self esteem back
8. Being held at night by someone who is capable of showing any emotion
9. Doing things that I enjoy doing and not worrying about what he's up to
10. Having someone to depend on if I need to
11. Not being angry anymore
12. Being excited about life again
13. Only being responsible for myself and my obligations, not someone else's.
14. Not worrying what damage is being done to the children.
15. Not being called vile names
16. Not having to replace things he's broken
17. The chance at being with someone who has integrity and motivation to be better
18. The chance of being with someone who makes me better for being with them
178. The chance at a normal life!


CONS
1. I love him.
2. I love his children and this will hurt them
3. I'll miss the fun times because there are some
4. We have a beautiful home and nice things. I wanted to live there forever.
5. He does pay half the home costs
6. I hate hurting him
7. It's hard to admit defeat
8. Hmmmmm...I need to think harder....the Pros were so much easier to come up with.

And, believe me, I can dispute a lot of these cons, but I still feel that way.