It can be very hard in early recovery to deal with family members. I had to distance myself from my mother when I began recovery because she was a huge trigger to me. It was essential for my well-being.
Do you have an option to live elsewhere or do you see a point in the future when you can move away from her home? In the meantime, you can try to focus on you and allow her to be who she is. Hopefully you can find some inner calm.