I know I shouldn't care or I should be thankful I removed myself from that situation.
It is not about not caring about them as much as it is about caring enough about yourself. Caring enough not to be pulled back into emotional manipulation and weapons of guilt.
The part about removing yourself from that toxic relationship…….no new contact = no new hurts.
Allowing him access to continue to emotionally abuse you is no different than him continuing to drink.
We tend to mirror them, he’s drunk calling you and your codiness is willing to accept it.