Originally Posted by
britgirl 
Thank you for your reply Dee and in answer to why I would put up with it, I really don't know.
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i think ya answered that part in your post here:
I don't have a lot of confidence in myself
, I was also lonely and bored, tired of being alone at night after my kids had gone to bed.
The attention was flattering
bg, it reads like the low self esteem has been going on for some time.
lookin back through some of your past threads, it reads like you yourself had a problem with alcohol.
how long have you been sober? have you done anything to address the underlying issues that alcohol was just a symptom of?
in other words, do you have untreated alcoholism? a person doesnt have to be acitvly drinking to have that happen.
whatever the case, there IS a solution.
you dont deserve to be treated like a doormat for or by someone elses mental and emotional problems.
theres stickies and the tops of the forums that might interest ya.
i hope ya decide to end whatever contact ya have with this man and start working on you. theres some
p.s.
clarity ,imo:
youre not in a relationship- you are a hostage.
start the process of loving yourself by breaking free