I just reread your post, Natalie.
Leaving the alcohol use aside for a moment, he is very controlling, and seems to want to control you.
I see many red flagsin your post, like his trying to limit contact with family and friends, controlling phone use (Seriously? Who does that?), just behaving as though he should be the center of your universe, and you are wrong for not buying that.
I think you have dodged a substantial bullet here.
Stay no contact, as recommended by atalose (who is very wise), reach out to family and friends for support, and do your very best to realize within yourself why you tolerated this behavior from him for one minute, let alone one year.
Peace and good thoughts.