Three weeks isn't a long time at all. It's a great start, but there's still such a long road ahead. I understand what you're feeling, but my advice is to really put your self-care and the care of your kids first and foremost. It sounds like you've been through a lot and I can absolutely relate. What I didn't do for a very long time was take care of myself because I had gotten into this cycle of cleaning up the messes AH got himself into. Definitely get yourself to Al-Anon. I recently started going again and it feels so good being around people who understand. You mentioned not being able to find a lot of resources regarding early sobriety for families - Al-Anon can definitely be of help there. You'll meet people who have been through it, know exactly what you're dealing with and can help you feel a little less alone in what can be a tremendously isolating experience. Please be good to yourself. *hugs*