Good points BB. I was listening to a speaker the other day talking about using the three legacies to figure out why someone relapses.
Like you said there are three sides to the triangle.
Unity which is the fellowship
Recovery which is the steps
Service which is about contributing, carrying the message, giving back.
Someone who can tick all three sides will not relapse. In my experience, most relapsers can tick unity, and that's about it. Just staying dry by feeding off the fellowship. That gets a bit tedious after a while, and it leads to unmet expectations. And of course if we haven't ticked the recovery side, these turn into festering resentments, RID as you called it. It is a downhill slide from there. I have seen it many times.