Good luck leanabeana. I agree with you when you say normal drinkers don't get it. Many alcoholics to get it either. Us lucky ones are the few that do get it and we had to surrender, ask for help and work at it.
I have tried to explain to normies about craving with no success. But then I will think about understanding something you haven't experienced. This makes me remember an AA speaker that said (paraphrasing), try to imagine what you thought about having an orgasm the day before your first one and what you knew it felt like after actually having one.