Hi, KH.
Welcome to SR.
Im glad your husband has embraced sobriety, and I hope he succeeds in his recovery.
It's very early days yet, and you sound as though you are struggling with the revelation about his drinking and his behavior toward you when he is drunk.
Really, there is no reason for you to reconcile, simply because he has stopped drinking, though he would probably like that.
Stopping is a good start, but he has a long road ahead of him.
First, I would get some form of group support if ypu don't have any.
Al-Anon is a good fellowship of people who have experienced your situation.
Second, I would take steps to protect my finances, just in case he relapses.
Third, move into that house without him.
Time and distance will bring clarity.
How about taking good care of you and your family, while your husband works on his recovery?
Very often, sadly, drinkers will stop drinking for a while in response to a loved one's ultimatum.
Only time will tell if he can stay stopped.