I know you didn't want to hear us say it's all going to be better sober....but I do believe that and I echo what Dee and others said.
So, I'll ask you a question: what are you going to do about it? You describe the problem- what is your solution? I ask from the standpoint of believing the AA saying "if I'm not the problem, there is no solution."
I have found - many times- that in sobriety, I have to figure out what it is that I need to change about myself. My approach to something- following others constructive criticism or observations, reading and learning for self-improvement...and things have gotten better- "sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly" as the BB says.
My best to you that you keep going and do not lose heart. Sobriety is indeed a process and we all face hurdles. Take care.