Thanks folks. Ive just read these but Im checked in at the airport now. Ive sent messages to everyone telling them Im not drinking and Ive booked a hotel so I can miss the 'main event' which is tonight. I feel its the best I can do. There is another get together on Saturday Ive already said Im not going to. I determined and I think this will be enough. Thanks gor all your advice. Gabe xx