I love guzzling wine
what is about the wine guzzle that you "love"? there's a lot more involved that the wine going down the throat - there is everything ELSE that brought you here to SR. lack of control, house and finances in disarray, sketchy people in your life, general abject misery.
you seem to have a very passive or meek demeanor - thus perhaps why you are so easily influenced by the predatory neighbor and why you have not yet mounted a successful run at recovery. you "give in" - choose the easier softer way.
recovery is damn hard work. it doesn't happen without our full participation and commitment. the program of AA can certainly be a vehicle for change, but you will need to dedicate yourself to it. and that's more than making a meeting now and then.