Originally Posted by
Matt5150 
We both love each other. I want to be part of her support in sobriety. I want to attend meetings with her and understand her struggle and share in her accomplishments. Is that so much to ask? If I can be a positive force in her success is that a bad thing? Going to the store with her Or taking her out to dinner or a movie would be bad?
why is she your EXwife?
why do you want something to do with your EXwife that put you through hell?
do you have a thought that after she gets out of rehab,everything will be sunshine,daisies,and unicorns? are you aware that rehab is ONLY the beginning of her learning a new way to live life on lifes terms? shes going to go through some SERIOUS feelings and emotions for some time.
notice the selfish,selfcenteredness here- iwant i want i want.
at this point in time, she needs to work on making herself a positive force and im sure she has a LOT more people around her in rehab that know a LOT more on how to help her than you do.
at this time, i think you may want to seriously step up help for YOU.
it reads like you are so wrapped up in her( your EXwife) you lost yourself.