Originally Posted by biminiblue

You are not her Recovery Angel.

Addicts don't bring their love interests to meetings. That's not how it works as a general rule...I mean, I've seen love interests at meetings but it was usually when the addict was getting a sober-time award (coin/chip) or if the addict was doing a speech etc. The people who have loved ones at meetings to hold their hands don't have much of a chance, IMO.

When people try to smother me, all I want to do is run. I have never liked other people hovering over me, wanting to know my every thought.

It's not your job to police her recovery. Unwind your fingers from her life. Let go of the leash. It's your job to recover yourself - stay in counseling. Please consider going to Al Anon meetings, alone. They are meetings for those whose lives have been touched by someone else's addiction.