Thanks folks. Reality sucks. I see my therapist at least once a month. He tells me that I have this need to save the world and neglect my own needs. I feel so sad that all we built and created was destroyed by her disease. I long for the days that we were happy and successful. We both love each other. I want to be part of her support in sobriety. I want to attend meetings with her and understand her struggle and share in her accomplishments. Is that so much to ask? If I can be a positive force in her success is that a bad thing? Going to the store with her Or taking her out to dinner or a movie would be bad?