The issue of addiction is so complex and some of the al anon material around detachment and enabling I have found really useful. What I struggle with the most is choices that have been made by AW when intox and how much weighting the affect of alcohol guided / influenced them. Can a person regularly behave in such hurtful ways and solely point the blame at alcohol?
I feel I need to help my recovering AW (not just for the sake of the kids) but for the good years we had and care for her to be better. I now understand that the journey ahead will see us take seperate paths and mentally adjusting and preparing for that.
Great post Seren, that has triggered yet more reflection on one own journey.....