Sorry you are having such a bad day Sasha. If you can, I would try to stop thinking in terms of winning/losing when it comes from differences with your family. If they can't come to terms with your life and how you choose to live it, you may have to simply cut off contact with them. You are an adult and can choose the best life for you and your daughter, what they think is really irrelevant for the most part. It certainly doesn't seem that way if you get in a confrontation, but if they have literally driven you away then it is their loss by a large margin. They win nothing but guilt and shame.