Vaya, just to clear the air a little, when I arrived at SR it was people who talked straight goods that helped me most...even though it was painful to hear sometimes and I felt they were being insensitive.
Yes, I needed gentle hugs and a lot of tissues...but I also needed some clarity and to take an honest look at myself and my part in my own sorrow.
Please know that every single person who responds to your posts does so with a caring heart. Embracing our diversity is a good way to see our situation from various perspectives, and in the end that is exactly what helped me make the commitment to myself to set a better course and begin healing and living a healthier life.
Your son is in my prayers, so are you. As the mother of an addict I truly understand your pain and fear.
Hugs