Hi Vaya
I have been reading your posts.
I am relatively new here & have been dealing with my own serious problems.
I have a long thread. Numerous & various people on SR have offered up advice & their informed opinions. Some have presented their information to me in a soft way. Others including Anvilhead & Tomsteve have hit me hard.
At first their cold hard facts are difficult to take. It shook me out of my comfort zone. They aren't doing it to hurt you (or me) or drive you from SR. They are doing it to help you think through this extremely difficult process.
Anvilhead has hit me hard often. But I have come to understand why. I know she cares. Cares enough to help a stranger like myself. I am not defending her style. But I just wanted you to know that behind it all she cares & is just trying to make you think clearly. It has helped me.
Good luck & thanks