Anvilhead- thank you for that. Very helpful imagery and I agree that this is how he feels. Taking all of that into consideration, it really does clarify for me that there's nothing else left to be said. As he said to me recently: he's entitled to his own happiness. And he's making his choice so I'm making mine. Of course, see frames it as me being unreasonable and stubborn...
LEXIE: Honestly, I have no idea how he will react, which is part of my stress. I'm starting with the filing and then am planning to discuss with attorney the next step. We've discussed involving our marital counselor, but he's been seeing him off and on alone for the last few months. He has said he won't leave mainly bc he can't afford a place on his own. I pay the mortgage in full. If he doesn't leave, lawyer and I have discussed possibility of offering him some money to find a place, but the thought of that makes me feel ill.