We all dream of wonderful things when we get married. Today I'm here for the kids. I was the alcoholic, I got there because that is how I chose to medicate the disappointment of my marriage. I'm sober, she doesnt drink much, but our relationship is connected by kids and the checkbook not the heart. Separation might not be all bad even though it is painful now. How long before his using creates anger, resentment, bitterness and then wasted years. Silence and continued use are very loud speakers on his intent.