My husband is behaving like a dry drunk, not abusing anything as far as I know, except me, the kids etc...
Wish I'd trusted my gut 'way back when'.
It's so hard looking after myself and my daughter.
His behaviour has become unacceptable and I will get through this just like you will, we have to start putting our own lives first and take steps to care about ourselves enough to do this.
Refocus the energy, stay strong, you can do it!