Wow SaveHer congratulations on the whole process coming out really good!!! I don't know the background, but you saying how the system knows these types (abusive, Narcissistic alcoholic) says it all!!! I'm very impressed with the homework you did (observing other dvro cases in process - GREAT idea) and setting your strategy using the tools and resources available is absolutely terrific! He's messing with the wrong (REALLY SMART) lady!!!