If he is still abusing, he is not recovering, he is just an addict. Know that.
I think the thing is that you are looking for validation from someone who is not able to give it. Addiction becomes their best friend, their bride, their everything. They will do all they can to manipulate the situation so they can continue to use.
I would say that your own focus should be put on you, your wants and needs, and getting yourself help so that you are strong enough to handle whatever comes your way in life. I did this through therapy and going to Celebrate Recovery. And of course the fine people here at SR helped me as well.
You cannot will or love them into recovery, if that was possible none of us would be here in the first place.
Hugs to you.