If I go for supervised visits only, AH will get a lawyer and all ability to have productive coparenting/parenting conversations will go out the window.
Sounds like you are trying to have “normal” with the not-normal. Normal divorced dads don’t pass out drunk while the children are in their care. There is never a worry with normal divorced dads regarding the safely of the children while in their care or the fear of him possible driving drunk with them in the car. Normal divorced moms don’t sit stressed out with worry every single time the dad has the children preventing them from enjoying some free time.
I’m just not sure how much quality or productive coparenting can get accomplished when one of those parents are operating with an alcohol soaked brain. Just because an alcoholic hasn’t consumed alcohol doesn’t mean they are operating with a sober brain, don’t fool yourself or minimize the serious current situation these 2 small children will be placed in.