Originally Posted by
sylvie83 
And if your partner sees what he's missing he may feel more motivation to stop drinking.
No doubt you're well intentioned, but this hope is what keeps many of us partners of active alcoholics engaged in relationships long, long, long past our own healthy expiration dates. This hope, in my experience, does way more harm than it helps. Active alcoholics can lose. miss out and give up on just about everything but drinking in most cases. Obviously some opt for recovery, but hoping and hoping that one's partner will be one of the "lucky ones" is what keeps us locked into situations that damage not just us, but many of our children.
Batchel, you might consider attending a few open Al-Anon meetings of ACoAs to gather more information about children's experiences of living with (or staying with) an active alcoholic parent. Make informed choices, not just emotional choices.