As a chronically single older gay man, I have little advice to offer in your current boy crisis, dear Jo...other than to remind all the ladies here that men, at their most basic, operate on three levels: two eyes and a penis. Any thoughts outside of that circuit are peripheral, and usually fleeting.
Or, as you used to say on the school playground, "Boys are stupid." As a former boy, I wholeheartedly agree.
Carry on, Mayflies! Let's not drink today!