Hi Sasha, the sooner you get this sorted out the better. The picture of you sitting in Starbucks for 2 hours because he can't be trusted to pick her up and deliver is a bleak one. I think, given the circumstances, twice a week is very reasonable, and is not denying custody. You have a life and routine.
I wanted to suggest to you that you practice your talking points with a friend. Having them written on paper is different from saying them out loud. Practicing helps you get your phrasing right and may stop you freezing up if you're nervous. I used this idea with great effect when I was going for an important job interview.