Hi TheMissus
Welcome to SR!
The booze always comes first and nothing is ever the A's fault. You'll read story after story on here about how the AS (alcoholic spouse or significant other) life revolves totally around them and how the family, friends cater to them.
It's like they're little children, literally, because they demand so much attention from others.
We get the choice of not doing that and focusing on ourselves, instead.
Keep posting!
((Hugs))