Thank you all for the support. i know I am a codependent, I know denial comes easy but I also know one needs to understand when powerless and accept to surrender. He passed out drunk last night on couch, woke up at 6am and was passed out again by 9am....and keeps going. Later in a conversation he says "when I was an alcoholic". I look at him not saying a word....just thinking I love you but I can no longer help you.