My heart goes out to you. Alcoholism is ugly. Your heart wrenching post reminds me of the pain and helplessness my loved ones must have felt when I was about to drop into the abyss.
I can relate to your brother and well imagine he did want to be saved, but still can't explain it. As the years go by I understand better, but I can't put it into a neat and concise nutshell in my head, much less express it in words.
Thank you for your post and I am sending my true heartfelt condolences at this difficult time.
Wishing you peace and serenity.