I echo the props for your username - awesome!
You don't have to say anything at Al-Anon, ever, if you don't want to. If discussion or reading comes around to you, you can just say "I pass." You can go and just absorb it like a sponge. Many here have spoken of crying the whole time at their first meeting - I know I did. It doesn't faze anyone - you can go and be completely yourself, tears and all, and you will be loved.