Oh I take it so personally, I've been sobbing for what feels like years now out of not being good enough for him to stop drinking. It's comforting (yet sad) to know I'm not alone in that struggle.
When you speak of detachment, do you mean mentally, emotionally, financially? I am unfamiliar with this approach for self-care.
Can anyone explain what is expected of someone at their first Al-Anon meeting? Do I have to speak and tell my story the very first time?